We’ve almost completely settled on wording for the invitations. Here are a few things we’ve learned in the process:
- You’re not supposed to write “10:00 a.m.” or ” 6:00 p.m.” either. You write “ten o’clock in the morning” or “six o’clock in the evening.” Technically if it’s obvious, you don’t have to have the “in the evening,” but it’s probably a good idea anyway.
- There’s an entire hierarchy of dress standards for these things. The problem is, most people don’t really know what’s appropriate for such occasions (I certainly didn’t!) because they don’t do these kind of events that often. Apparently, for any event after 6:00 pm, full dinner formals are appropriate. That is, tuxedos and floor-length evening gowns. Anyway, the usual heirarchy is: black tie, black tie optional, semi-formal, semi-casual, casual. “Black tie” means tuxedos and evening wear. “Black tie optional” means that there will be people in tuxedos and evening wear, and while you don’t have to wear something that formal, it would be appropriate, and you should dress accordingly. “Semi-formal” is basically tuxedos and business suits. This is probably what most people would equate with their “sunday best.” “Semi-casual” is things like trousers and button-down shirts with loafers, etc…. Finally, casual is whatever you want, come-as-you-are, jeans-and-a-t-shirt, sandals, etc…. While we want our reception to be classy, we also don’t want people to go renting tuxedos, so we’ve decided on semi-formal, encouraging people to dress their best without having to do anything crazy like spend money on clothes they’re going to wear once.
- There’s one other classification of clothing, known as “white tie.” White tie is full formal. Tailcoat, white bow tie, etc… This is the ultimate in formal wear for men. If Marcia has her way (which she will), I’ll be dressed white tie for the reception. That’s fine with me – even though I don’t do it very often, I do enjoy looking good.
- If the invitation is to a wedding held at a church, you use the phrase “request the honour of your presence.” If it’s held anywhere else, or the invitation is only to the reception and not the wedding itself, the correct wording is “request the pleasure of your company.”
- Finally, when providing addresses to the location of the wedding or the reception, you never include the zip code, and following the above-stated rule of no abbreviations, write out the full name of the state.
I commented to Marcia yesterday that it’s a shame that when planning a wedding, there’s so much to learn, and you only use most of that knowledge once. Hopefully by writing it here, someone else can make use of what we’ve learned.
So, this site has existed for three whole days, and already technorati has picked it up. I’m not sure how that happened, since they picked it up as jacobandmarcia.com, which I only registered on thursday night (and technorati had it by friday afternoon) and haven’t told anyone about it yet.
But here’s the great part: according to technorati, we are the 1,420,455th most popular blog on the internet! I’m so proud.
In yet another brief fit of
work avoidance curiosity, I was taught something interesting. Look at the main news headlines of CNN, Fox News, and Google News, and then at digg.com, a web site that tracks the most popular web sites at a given moment, and (I think) a pretty good gauge of what people care about right now.
CNN, Fox, and Google seemed to agree that the most important stories of the day are terrorist plots in the UK, the JonBenet Ramsey case in Colorado (and now Thailand), and the war between Lebanon and Israel.
Digg, however, shows us that what people really care about right now is an amazingly accurate recreation of New York City – with Lego! This site gets more than 1000 digg points than the #2 site of the day. And for reference, the first mention of terrorists, JonBenet Ramsey, or Lebanon or Israel is #39 on the list, and it’s an interesting sattelite image of oil spilled along the Lebanese coast. It got just over 500 points, compared to Lego City’s 3,600+ points.
This was pointed out by Joe D’eon, a commercial airline pilot who does a very interesting podcast. He sees this as a sign that the mainstream media aren’t really telling us what we actually care to know.
And you have to admit, a Lego New York City is pretty cool.
One of the interesting things about running a small business where you sell software on the internet is that people can buy what you’re selling without you having to do anything. In my case, they go to my web site, click a couple links, and make the purchase entirely online. When they do that, I get an email and a piece of paper comes out of my printer.
Lately, for some reason, the vast majority of my customers have been in Europe. So most of these transactions happen while I’m asleep. My routine in the morning is to get up, turn on lights, and glance at the printer to see if there are any invoices on the printer. Of course, with the number of “overnight” customers I’ve been getting lately, there has been paper on the printer nearly every morning.
While I know that it doesn’t really amount to money for nothing, I am slightly amused at the thought of making money while I sleep. It’s always nice to go to bed and wake up in the morning with just a little more in the bank than there was last night.
Of course, that’s not quite as nice as when Marcia comes to town in the morning and I get to see her first thing in the day and make her breakfast… That really is the best part of waking up.
Wedding stuff today…
Today we started putting together the painfully long list of people to whome we intend to send wedding invitations. In about 30 minutes, we came up with roughly 200 people who will receive invitiations, and that’s without consulting our parents for lists of people that THEY want to notify. We’re making the invitations ourselves (correction: Marcia is making the invitations herself), so we bought supplies to do 300 announcements. Hopefully that will be more than enough, but if not we can always get more.
I have been tasked with shopping around to find the best price on getting pictures printed. There is an abundance of very nice digital cameras among our family and friends, as well as a few talented photographers, so for the announcement pictures we’re simply going to take them ourselves digitally and have them printed at a professional shop. Here’s what I’ve discovered: Walmart’s photo counter prints 4×6 photos for $0.19 each if you are getting more than 50. The relatively new online service Shutterfly charges the same 19 cents as their base rate, and the prices go down from there as you order in bulk. Buy 200 prints and they’re $0.15. Get 400 prints and they’re $0.14. The question is whether shipping makes up for it and still makes Walmart more economical.
Finally, last night in a fit of
work avoidance curiousity I googled for “wedding blogs,” and found that Scott Adams, creator of the very funny Dilbert comic strip, recently got married. He astutely observed that when you take a product and attach the word “wedding” to it, you get to triple its price.
That’s why we bought the supplies for our wedding invitations at Staples and a scrapbooking store – no “wedding” stuff in sight there.
This is our website. When we get married, it will be a “family” website. Until then, I’m not sure what it is, but it’s ours.